Etiquette is a tricky subject that in Bridechilla land is an evolving subject. On this episode of Bridechilla, I invite invitation designer Tifany Wunschl, the owner and lead designer of Gourmet Invitations to share her insights on all of the etiquette surrounding invitations and gifting, the ‘proper way’ to say things and avoid tricky situations, possible misinformation and making sure you give all the right info to get you and your guests to the church…or casino on time (promise that will make a lot more sense when you listen!).
Listen to episode 324 of Bridechilla
Tifany's best Wedding Invitation tips
How do you choose your wedding invitation fonts?
I think this invitation is the perfect suite to show how to choose wedding invitation fonts. Our couple comes to us from TwoFoot Creative. They are modern and trendy and we want that to show on the invitation suite. We paired five different fonts on this invitation with unique layouts of the information. The sans serif fonts are clean and very modern. Then to add a little bit of fun, a handwritten font that is all lower case and used in just a few lines on the invitation. This is also my new favorite way to word rsvp cards. Each card is printed with the names of the invited guests! No more uninvited guests! The other great feature of this wording is that you know exactly which guest ordered which entrée. We have other examples of personalized rsvp cards here and here.
When to send out Wedding Invitations?
To figure out when to send out wedding invitations, we have to go to the end and work our way backward.
When are your seating arrangements due?
Typically, your seating arrangements are due to the venue or wedding planner or the person doing your escort cards will be two weeks before the wedding date. If you are don’t have a due date from anyone, I would still make your due date to yourself of two weeks. This way you aren’t doing your escort cards or place cards the night before your wedding!
Set your rsvp date two weeks before your seating arrangements are due.
Without even realizing it, you just answered another question: “What date do you put on your response cards?” Two weeks is going to give you the time you need for the response cards to trickle in. You also need to call ALL of the people who didn’t send in their response cards. Finally, you need to make all of your seating arrangements. A response date of four weeks before the wedding might seem like a long time. But trust me, you are going to be so grateful you have the two weeks before your seating arrangements are due to get together your guest list and make the seating arrangements.
Mail out your wedding invitations 4 weeks before your rsvp date.
Four weeks?! I know, that sounds like so much time, doesn’t it? But the post office isn’t called “snail mail” for nothing and in the last few years, the “snail” has gotten slower. So let’s figure a week for the invitations to get to your guests and another week for the response cards to be returned to you. Four weeks now doesn’t seem so long.
Should I mail out international invitations earlier?
Yes – like maybe a week or two earlier. But PLEASE don’t send out your stateside invitations 6 weeks before the RSVP day. If you send out your wedding invitations too early, your response rate is going to go down significantly. The longer your guests have the invitations, the longer you are giving your guests to forget to return the response cards.
What about a destination wedding? Should your invitations be mailed earlier for a destination wedding?
If you are having a destination wedding, I suggest that you send out save the dates 6 – 8 months before the wedding. Then send out your invitations 8 weeks before the wedding. If you aren’t sending out save the dates, send your wedding invitations 6 – 8 months before a destination wedding. Everyone who is close enough to you to travel to a destination wedding knows when your wedding is and has already made plans. If your guests don’t know about your wedding, then, in reality, they aren’t going to travel to attend your wedding. So my short answer to this question is, send out something 6-8 months before a destination wedding to let your guests know the date!
Aviation themed invitations by Tifany
I’m Tifany Wunschl and I’m the owner and lead designer of Gourmet Invitations.
My passion is designing custom invitations for special clients like you. I’ve been creating unique invitations since 2005 and I find inspiration through my clients’ exciting events. My goal is for my clients to have their dream invitations that are better than they ever could have imagined.
I help my clients bring their custom invitations from just a thought to the very real end result.
Through my simplified process, I help clients with wording, addressing, complicated situations, negotiation strategies when there are two (or three) very different opinions and even dealing with the post office
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